These 5 things indicate someone has strong social skills – Fast Company post

The connection between strong social skills and career success is clear.

BY: JUDITH HUMPHREY – 3 MINUTE READ

These 5 things indicate someone has strong social skills
[Photo: Joshua Ness/Unsplash]

In our time, while AI and other automation tools are being discussed, implemented and trusted by more and more companies, one thing still overrides as a career success factor: social skills.

[***Be part of the solution. “Like” and “Share” this so that others in your network will benefit from this post. You never know who’s looking for a new job.

Your unemployed friends will thank you for that.***]

For the month of May – or for the next 2 people, whichever comes first – we will discount everyone that tells us they see and appreciate these posts. The best discount will be $500 off of our Full Solution Career Coaching package.

We have other packages as well. Let us know when you reach out.
We’ll talk through our offerings, and then you can decide which appeals to you.

Schedule time convenient to your calendar at:

https://fb.com/book/eCareerCoaching/

<eCareerCoaching.com> is a professional career trajectory coaching organization, helping managers and above since 2005. If you make $100,000 per year or more, you are losing at least $400 per day for each day you’re out of work.

We can help you land faster.

We’ve helped over 700 people since 2004, and we can help you, too.

“Stand up and be counted – or be counted out.” – Tom Peters

– Don Oehlert
Career Progression Coach
info@eCareerCoaching.com

eCareerCoaching.com
Be found. Get hired. Faster.


Whether you’re heading for a job interview, meeting a client, or chatting with a colleague, there’s one “make or break” factor at work: your interpersonal skills.

Plenty of research has been done about the connection between strong social skills and career success—especially in a workplace that is only becoming more automated.

Social skills are the key to teamwork and building long-term relationships, but they can feel hard to measure. If you lack them, you’ll suffer the consequences. People won’t likely say to your face that you lack social smarts, but the hard truth is that they may be less inclined to promote you or invite you out for after-work drinks.

The good news is that you absolutely can improve your interpersonal skill set, once you know what to focus on. Here are five concrete indicators that someone is socially adept:

1. THEY SHOW AN APPRECIATION FOR OTHERS

Everyone wants to feel special, so a strong starting point is to make them feel great about themselves. If they’ve had a “win” of some kind, mention that, congratulate them, show that they are special in your mind. If you don’t know them personally—say in the case of a recruiter—do your research before you meet, and compliment the recruiter on his success rate in placing candidates. If you’re talking to your boss, mention that you appreciate the feedback she gave you on your last presentation.

Don’t worry that you’ll sound like a suck-up when you compliment the other person. Generally what seems like overzealous praise to you will sound like the absolute truth to the person with whom you’re speaking.

2. THEY LISTEN DEEPLY

Another great skill is the ability to listen. It’s not as easy as you might think, which is why if you encounter someone who’s really good at listening, it often makes a strong impression.

study by the Harvard University Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience Lab revealed that people spend 60% of their conversations talking about themselves. When we aren’t talking, we’re often constructing our response.

The best strategy for developing your listening skills is to understand how to listen. Adopt a simple three-pronged approach:

  • Listen with your eyes: Understand the other person’s body language and what it means. Are they sitting with their arms crossed, for instance, or do they seem relaxed?
  • Listen with your mind: Try to understand what they’re thinking.
  • Listen with your heart: Sense what they’re feeling, even if they’re not saying something explicitly.

You don’t have to do all three at the same time. But try one, then another, then another. Practicing this form of engagement will help you strengthen your connection with the other person.

3. THEY’RE ENTHUSIASTIC

We’re drawn to people who give us energy—people who are upbeat, enthusiastic, and positive in their outlook. To achieve this dynamic connection with others, think of leading and inspiring others, no matter your position. When it’s possible, resist complaining, blaming others, or bringing people down. Instead, talk about what’s been awesome about your day, or about an experience you and your colleague have shared.

4. THEY USE BODY LANGUAGE EFFECTIVELY

Your social skills involve more than your words. To build interpersonal rapport, use centered body language.

Look others directly in the eye and show warmth. Don’t let your eyes dart away when someone passes or when you get a text on your phone. This will make the other person feel ignored—and rightly so!

Consider the expression on your face, and your tone of voice. Finally, align your body with that of the person you’re talking to. If you’re standing, mirror the other person’s body position. If that individual is sitting, sit down next to them, rather than towering over them.

5. THEY’RE GRATEFUL

This last but equally important skill is to thank others for what they have given you or done with you. I frequently spend time with people who ask for career advice or consult me on job opportunities. I am delighted to do this, but I am somewhat disheartened when there is no follow-up “thank you.” This is common courtesy. Saying “thank you” holds for job interviews, professional conversations, networking chats, and even encounters with friends.

You don’t necessarily have to send a handwritten note—although such notes can speak volumes. But by all means send a message that explains how much you got out of the meeting, and how grateful you are. If it’s an email, send it within hours of your meeting.


ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Judith Humphrey is founder of The Humphrey Group, a premier leadership communications firm headquartered in Toronto. She also recently established EQUOS Corp., a company focused on delivering emotional intelligence training to the fitness, medical, and business sectors.


#leadership #shortage #careercoaching #ecareercoaching #resumewriting 
#resumes #results #betterresults #compelling #ecareercoaching.com 
#interviewingtips #interviewing #handbills #emotionalintelligence #interviewquestion 
#blogs #jobseeker #careerpivot #careerprogression #befound #befoundgethired 
#gethired #positivepsychology #laidoff #babyboomers #productive #habit 
#metoo #job #fired #emotionalintelligence #EQ #writing #storytelling
#millenials #GenZ #BradSchneider #MelindaBush #IL10

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.